"

Remember that intimate conversation you had with your son? The one where you said, “I love you and I need you to know that no matter how a woman dresses or acts, it is not an invitation to cat call, taunt, harass or assault her”?

Or when you told your son, “A woman’s virginity isn’t a prize and sleeping with a woman doesn’t earn you a point”?

How about the heart-to-heart where you lovingly conferred the legal knowledge that “a woman doesn’t have to be fighting you and you don’t have to be pinning her down for it to be RAPE. Intoxication means she can’t legally consent, NOT that she’s an easy score.”

Or maybe you recall sharing my personal favorite, “Your sexual experiences don’t dictate your worth just like a woman’s sexual experiences don’t dictate hers.”

Last but not least, do you remember calling your son out when you discovered he was using the word “slut” liberally? Or when you overheard him talking about some girl from school as if she were more of a conquest than a person?

I want you to consider these conversations and then ask yourself why you don’t remember them. The likely reason is because you didn’t have them. In fact, most parents haven’t had them.

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anotherdamnposer:

Being an atheist is ok.
Being an atheist and shaming religion and spirituality as silly or not real is not ok.

Being a Christian is ok.
Being a homophobic, misogynistic, racist, or otherwise hateful person in the name of Christianity is not ok.

Being a reindeer is ok.
Bullying and excluding another reindeer because he has a shiny red nose is not ok.

"Women feel more guilt than men, not because of some weird chromosomal issue but because they have a history of being blamed for other people’s behavior. You get hit, you must have annoyed someone; you get raped, you must have excited someone; your kid is a junkie, you must have brought him up wrong."
Guilt Poisons Women by Germaine Greer (via verklighetsflykten)

  • what you said was: "i don't respect women who don't respect themselves"
  • what you meant was: "i and society as a whole hold women up to ridiculous respectability standards directly relating to the "purity" of said women while hypersexualizing them at the same time and if you are a woman and don't fit my awkward monolith of criteria then i refuse to acknowledge your humanity"
  • what i heard was: "hi i'm a misogynist piece of shit, please punch me in my face"

"You painted a naked woman because you enjoyed looking at her, put a mirror in her hand and you called the painting “Vanity,” thus morally condemning the woman whose nakedness you had depicted for you own pleasure."

firstladysexyfineass:

If it takes thinking about your mother, sister daughter or any woman in your life being treated by men the way u treat women to get u to stop then u still fail

Yup. If you can’t treat women with a basic amount of human decency without qualifiers, or unsolicited advice, or patting yourself on the back, you should probably take it up with yourself. 


thelittlekneesofbees:

TW: RAPE

lightspeedsound:

queennubian:

so-sunderbelly:

thatdorkyguy:

oppressedbrowngirlsdoingthings:

“Nobody has the right to turn out and tell me that I can’t wear a certain outfit, that I can’t go out to a certain place because I would be safer, or because a man looks at me…”

I love Priyanka Chopra.

Why are you walking about naked in the first place? That just seems rather unsuitable regardless of gender.

it doesn’t matter if she’s naked. that shouldn’t even be a question.

tw:rape

If a woman is walking around naked, she’s not walking around to get raped. She doesn’t want to get raped. Do you know why? Because rape means NON-CONSENSUAL SEX. IT MEANS BEING FORCED AGAINST YOUR WILL IN A SEXUAL SITUATION. 

And Priyanka Chopra breaks that shit down easily. 


Disliking physical contact

snatching-fedoras:

It DOES NOT mean that:

  • you’re damaged
  • you’re antisocial
  • you have to “warm up”

so can we just fucking STOP saying that people have to learn to like it, or pathologising them?

Rape culture includes the belief that people (especially those perceived as female) have to like physical contact or else it means they’re broken, as well as the belief that they will “get used to it”/”warm up”.

After the first time I stopped liking touches from people, the only person I would let hug me was my mum and people noticed that and would attack me from behind and hug me or tackle hug me and would laugh when I’d scream my head off and get in foetal position. If people don’t like being touched, please fucking respect our physical goddamn boundaries. 

Also, with the bolded, this belief leads to people believing that if you don’t like the contact you’ll grow to enjoy it and that no doesn’t really mean no it just means “Give them time to work through their ‘issues’”. UGH.


A Letter from Christian Guys

everythingbutharleyquinn:

littlethingsaboutgod:

 

Girls, could we talk to you right out of our hearts for a few minutes? It is awkward for us to talk about something of this nature, in person, so we thought we would write our feelings.

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my most sincerest wish in life is that every single guy who had a hand in writing this lives a wretched, lonely, demoralising existence before dying alone.

Saw the title and I was like “Nope, not going there at 6:30” in the morning. 


"The accusation of man hating and male bashing also shifts attention away from women and onto men in a sympathetic way that reinforces patriarchal male centeredness while putting women on the defensive for criticizing it. In the process, it portrays men as victims of a gender prejudice that on the surface seems comparable to the sexism directed at women. Like many such false parallels, this ignores the fact that antifemale and antimale prejudices have different social bases and produce very different consequences. Resentment and hatred of women are grounded in a misogynist culture that devalues femaleness itself as part of male privilege and female oppression. For women, however, mainstream patriarchal culture offers no comparable antimale ideology, and so their resentment is based more on experience as a subordinate group and men’s part in it."
— Allan G. Johnson (via wretchedoftheearth)

eternitysshylock:

don’t be too clingy
don’t be such a ‘girl’
be a woman
but be hairless like a child

don’t wear skimpy outfits
don’t be such a ‘slut’
be modest
but take it off when i ask

don’t assert yourself
don’t be such a ‘bitch’
be nice to me
but don’t be a fucking doormat

don’t be ignorant
don’t be such a ‘bimbo’
be intelligent
but don’t argue your opinion with me

don’t wear make-up ever
don’t be so ‘insecure’
be yourself
but don’t complain if i don’t like it