John Berger Ways of Seeing (via spartanbitch)
This is super fucking relevant.
And why self portraits (selfies) are often such an act of self preservation and resistance.
selfies as politics, hell yeah.
#it’s okay to follow creepshots but when a celebrity’s nudes are leaked she’s a slut #it’s perfectly normal to watch objectifying porn but when a woman decides to film herself having sex she’s a whore #it’s alright for you to harass women on the street but when they approach you first it’s arrogance #it’s cool for you to fantasize about a woman who’s out of your league but when a woman you deem unattractive likes you you’re disgusted #no don’t worry you can make female bodies public property but when they discuss your masturbation habits you can be offended
If it takes thinking about your mother, sister daughter or any woman in your life being treated by men the way u treat women to get u to stop then u still fail
Yup. If you can’t treat women with a basic amount of human decency without qualifiers, or unsolicited advice, or patting yourself on the back, you should probably take it up with yourself.
“Nobody has the right to turn out and tell me that I can’t wear a certain outfit, that I can’t go out to a certain place because I would be safer, or because a man looks at me…”
I love Priyanka Chopra.
Why are you walking about naked in the first place? That just seems rather unsuitable regardless of gender.
it doesn’t matter if she’s naked. that shouldn’t even be a question.
If a woman is walking around naked, she’s not walking around to get raped. She doesn’t want to get raped. Do you know why? Because rape means NON-CONSENSUAL SEX. IT MEANS BEING FORCED AGAINST YOUR WILL IN A SEXUAL SITUATION.
And Priyanka Chopra breaks that shit down easily.
It DOES NOT mean that:
- you’re damaged
- you’re antisocial
- you have to “warm up”
so can we just fucking STOP saying that people have to learn to like it, or pathologising them?
Rape culture includes the belief that people (especially those perceived as female) have to like physical contact or else it means they’re broken, as well as the belief that they will “get used to it”/”warm up”.
After the first time I stopped liking touches from people, the only person I would let hug me was my mum and people noticed that and would attack me from behind and hug me or tackle hug me and would laugh when I’d scream my head off and get in foetal position. If people don’t like being touched, please fucking respect our physical goddamn boundaries.
Also, with the bolded, this belief leads to people believing that if you don’t like the contact you’ll grow to enjoy it and that no doesn’t really mean no it just means “Give them time to work through their ‘issues’”. UGH.
Girls, could we talk to you right out of our hearts for a few minutes? It is awkward for us to talk about something of this nature, in person, so we thought we would write our feelings.
my most sincerest wish in life is that every single guy who had a hand in writing this lives a wretched, lonely, demoralising existence before dying alone.
Saw the title and I was like “Nope, not going there at 6:30” in the morning.
don’t be too clingy
don’t be such a ‘girl’
be a woman
but be hairless like a child
don’t wear skimpy outfits
don’t be such a ‘slut’
but take it off when i ask
don’t assert yourself
don’t be such a ‘bitch’
be nice to me
but don’t be a fucking doormat
don’t be ignorant
don’t be such a ‘bimbo’
but don’t argue your opinion with me
don’t wear make-up ever
don’t be so ‘insecure’
but don’t complain if i don’t like it
men don’t get to decide what is misogynistic
straight people don’t get to decide what is homophobic
cis people don’t get to decide what is transphobic
white people don’t get to decide what is racist
people in positions of power
don’t get to decide what is considered oppression
that’s how we move backwards, not forwards
So I asked this question on Twitter, but then I realized I wanted to ask it here too. As all the discussions circulate about domestic violence blackface at Waverly & the bus driver in Cleveland who decided to punch a belligerent female passenger at what point do we talk about why so many are quick to laugh about violence against black women? When do we talk about domestic violence stats in the black community & how often violence against black women is encouraged and supported by the mainstream narrative that black women are strong and can’t be hurt?
I’m totally willing to have a discussion about racialized misogyny, and what it means to say that WOC can never be victimized, but I’m not sure we’re ready to have it. Because it would mean talking about sexual abuse of black women before the age of 18, and intimate partner violence like black women are human. And so far I’m not seeing too many people willing to recognize our humanity, much less our vulnerability to violence. So when can we start the conversation, and how long before it is about the health and safety of black women, and not just another discourse on how we need to support black men?
What hurts the most is the many memes created out of the pain of black women, especially women read as “ratchet” because it’s dehumanizing and painful and it means a lot more than just a meme. It’s what allows people to look at us and determine our value based on how insistent we are on being heard and our own humanity. So um, fuck you. Everybody. If you categorize black women, lightskinned vs. darkskinned, nappy headed hoes vs. mixed girls, ratchet bitches vs. persnickety bitches etc.
The people who think Debbie is just some “mad woman” caricature because she wants some stuff in her life and to be unburdened by the expectations of heterosexual relationships…
I can only imagine how their heads would explode if she was a WOC (or *gasp*, heavens forfend, a Black Woman), and/or a transfeminine character.
As much as I love Debbie and support that character, what would have been incredibly revolutionary is if they positioned her as a WOC.
Remember, the only reason she is killed (as opposed to the first movies’ villains being subsumed into the Addams’ universe), because she presents a physical threat. And even then, the family itself doesn’t fight her, they actually say, at the end of things “Okay, you’re totally right, go for it” (it was the baby that created the conditions for Debbie’s murder to fail, so it’s a deus ex machina situation rather than a direct defense against her).
Here, let me write that again:
THE FAMILY SHE IS ABOUT TO MURDER SAYS “YOU’RE RIGHT, WE WON’T DENY YOU YOUR REVENGE ON THE SOCIETY THAT PRODUCED YOU.”
You really have to love those Addamses. It made perfect sense to them and it made perfect sense to me. And to so many other women who watch that movie. I’ve always had a major heart-on for Debbie.
The idea that women shouldn’t go out and get what we want and EXPLOIT MEN for a change in order to do so is what Debbie bucks against and why I love her so.
But GOD YES, imagine if she were a WOC.
Giving WoC permission to be angry or wreak havoc on the society that actively oppresses her? What is this witchcraft of which you speak?
(Photo: Disney Junior, Barney’s)
Minnie, Goofy, Daisy – timeless, complete characters who don’t need to change a thing, right? Unless you talk to the fashion industry.
What do you think of this campaign? Is it sending the wrong message?
short answer: yes.
long answer: 1. Way to fuck with disney
2. Fashion designers need to get over their idea of “form” right now. Someone needs literally slap every fashion designer in the face and make them design on varying bodies types.
Asshole opinion time. If you can’t design on anything but an idealized body, maybe you’re not that great at design, you one trick pony motherfuckers.
[Image: a cartoon of Minnie Mouse side-by-side with a stick-figure-thin image that looks nothing like her]
What pandaseal said
so some asshole too Minnie and made her into what exactly? Because I’m having a hard time even understanding this shit.