Love this woman!
Remember that intimate conversation you had with your son? The one where you said, “I love you and I need you to know that no matter how a woman dresses or acts, it is not an invitation to cat call, taunt, harass or assault her”?
Or when you told your son, “A woman’s virginity isn’t a prize and sleeping with a woman doesn’t earn you a point”?
How about the heart-to-heart where you lovingly conferred the legal knowledge that “a woman doesn’t have to be fighting you and you don’t have to be pinning her down for it to be RAPE. Intoxication means she can’t legally consent, NOT that she’s an easy score.”
Or maybe you recall sharing my personal favorite, “Your sexual experiences don’t dictate your worth just like a woman’s sexual experiences don’t dictate hers.”
Last but not least, do you remember calling your son out when you discovered he was using the word “slut” liberally? Or when you overheard him talking about some girl from school as if she were more of a conquest than a person?
I want you to consider these conversations and then ask yourself why you don’t remember them. The likely reason is because you didn’t have them. In fact, most parents haven’t had them."
John Berger Ways of Seeing (via spartanbitch)
This is super fucking relevant.
And why self portraits (selfies) are often such an act of self preservation and resistance.
selfies as politics, hell yeah.
#it’s okay to follow creepshots but when a celebrity’s nudes are leaked she’s a slut #it’s perfectly normal to watch objectifying porn but when a woman decides to film herself having sex she’s a whore #it’s alright for you to harass women on the street but when they approach you first it’s arrogance #it’s cool for you to fantasize about a woman who’s out of your league but when a woman you deem unattractive likes you you’re disgusted #no don’t worry you can make female bodies public property but when they discuss your masturbation habits you can be offended
If it takes thinking about your mother, sister daughter or any woman in your life being treated by men the way u treat women to get u to stop then u still fail
Yup. If you can’t treat women with a basic amount of human decency without qualifiers, or unsolicited advice, or patting yourself on the back, you should probably take it up with yourself.
“Nobody has the right to turn out and tell me that I can’t wear a certain outfit, that I can’t go out to a certain place because I would be safer, or because a man looks at me…”
I love Priyanka Chopra.
Why are you walking about naked in the first place? That just seems rather unsuitable regardless of gender.
it doesn’t matter if she’s naked. that shouldn’t even be a question.
If a woman is walking around naked, she’s not walking around to get raped. She doesn’t want to get raped. Do you know why? Because rape means NON-CONSENSUAL SEX. IT MEANS BEING FORCED AGAINST YOUR WILL IN A SEXUAL SITUATION.
And Priyanka Chopra breaks that shit down easily.
It DOES NOT mean that:
- you’re damaged
- you’re antisocial
- you have to “warm up”
so can we just fucking STOP saying that people have to learn to like it, or pathologising them?
Rape culture includes the belief that people (especially those perceived as female) have to like physical contact or else it means they’re broken, as well as the belief that they will “get used to it”/”warm up”.
After the first time I stopped liking touches from people, the only person I would let hug me was my mum and people noticed that and would attack me from behind and hug me or tackle hug me and would laugh when I’d scream my head off and get in foetal position. If people don’t like being touched, please fucking respect our physical goddamn boundaries.
Also, with the bolded, this belief leads to people believing that if you don’t like the contact you’ll grow to enjoy it and that no doesn’t really mean no it just means “Give them time to work through their ‘issues’”. UGH.
Girls, could we talk to you right out of our hearts for a few minutes? It is awkward for us to talk about something of this nature, in person, so we thought we would write our feelings.
my most sincerest wish in life is that every single guy who had a hand in writing this lives a wretched, lonely, demoralising existence before dying alone.
Saw the title and I was like “Nope, not going there at 6:30” in the morning.
don’t be too clingy
don’t be such a ‘girl’
be a woman
but be hairless like a child
don’t wear skimpy outfits
don’t be such a ‘slut’
but take it off when i ask
don’t assert yourself
don’t be such a ‘bitch’
be nice to me
but don’t be a fucking doormat
don’t be ignorant
don’t be such a ‘bimbo’
but don’t argue your opinion with me
don’t wear make-up ever
don’t be so ‘insecure’
but don’t complain if i don’t like it